My Midwifery preceptor reminded me of something yesterday. No matter where you go or who you choose to serve you in your pregnancy, YOU are the one responsible for your prenatal care. Prenatal care is not just the tests you do, the heart tones, weight checks and blood draws. Prenatal care is what you do for yourself during pregnancy to ensure the healthiest birth outcome for you.
When you go to your doctor or midwife for your initial visit, take a well thought out list of questions and concerns. Take a 7 day diet diary for them to go over with you. Their responses will tell you if they are the right fit for you. Did they dismiss the diet diary and tell you it doesn’t matter? Did they go through it and help you find strengths and weaknesses? Do not wait for your chosen caregiver to demand proof that you are keeping yourself healthy. Arm yourself with knowledge. Ask what books they recommend and READ them. Research what exercise is appropriate and make a plan to do it at least a few times a week. In the essential oils world we call this staying above the wellness line. How can you personally stay on top of your own wellness?
The first thing you can do is write down how you feel. If you are experiencing 1st trimester nausea, ask your caregiver to assist you in finding answers. Sometimes it is hormonal, but a lot of the time it is diet related. Do not take a drug for something you can fix with extra protein and b vitamins! Drugs have their place but they should stay IN their place. The same goes for natural remedies. Papaya enzymes can’t cover a crappy diet. Write your list of complaints, get input from your caregiver and ACT.
Get books. This is school: it is a nine month crash course in biology and how to grow a human. Blogs are great, but they are a starting point. It is a lesson in relaxation to get a good book, sit down with a cup of hot tea and a blanket, and learn about your baby. Start a small library so that when you are done having babies you can bless a new mama. Some books I love? Dr Sears Birth Book, Dr Sears Baby Book, Shonda Parker Making Babies, and so many more! The Making Babies book comes with a neat DVD that shows you how to make a lot of her recipes. Online there is the Brewer Diet page.
Include your partner. My husband always asked me to give him the synopsis. I read a lot to him in the baby years, lol. He also worked early to late, so when he got home I would keep him involved by telling him how eating went that day, and practiced relaxation with him. Helping you relax helps him relax, and helps you figure out what might work best during labor.
Women have been having babies since the beginning of time. You have not. Generations of mamas forgetting how to have a good pregnancy and birth have left us with a choice. Will we choose not to care for our selves and our tiny passengers? Will we give up and agree that almost half of women cannot have a baby vaginally, and that drugs are the only way to endure labor? Are we going to accept that a greatly growing number of women are incapable of making it to term without developing toxemia and other nutrition-related disorders? Or are we going to THRIVE, and grow fat healthy babies?